Little Bambi

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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:26 PM CST : Little Bambi

Little Bambi.

Bambi is my daughter Amber. I call her Bambi though.

Her father rang earlier today to say she had run away from home, she lives with him in Hervey Bay.

He couldnt contact her, because the naughty girl turnt her phone off........But me being the CSI agent that I am

tracked her down. She is sooo upset, sobbing, had enough of her father.............long story but she feels isolated between her dads new wife and him, this has been going on a while.

She has only just turnt 16 on the 1st December. Anyway her Dad doesn't want her back

I have spoken to her on the phone and she is adamant she is going to live by herself. I have told her to come here and she doesn't want to leave her friends. I told her that is the last thing she should be thinking of at the moment.

The worst thing is her Dad told me he found a bong in her school bag, that shocked me a bit I have to tell you....................It's funny with parenting even though Kimberley is older she is nothing like Amber, Amber is rebellious and can be a bitch (gets it from her dad

) we face things for the first time, like at the moment I know all the common 'what you should do' But I am terrified of being to heavy with her and pushing her away more.

I feel this has something to do with being in the wrong crowd. I feel she can be pulled back, but I feel if left alone she is going to go down a very bad road.

So this afternoon I am left with talking to her and hoping she agrees to come here for a while, if not I will need to fly to see her to see if I can talk some sense into her.

She is angry, I hate that. I want to reach where the anger is coming from. She has such a beautiful heart and is gorgeous looking it worries me sick.

Thanks for letting me rant

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crazzzymolly hervey bay, Queensland Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:32 PM CST : Little Bambi

I live in hervey bay girl don't worry I will give you my phone number and if she likes she can come stay with me till you sort something out

...molly..

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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:33 PM CST : Little Bambi

crazzzymolly: I live in hervey bay girl don't worry I will give you my phone number and if she likes she can come stay with me till you sort something out

...molly..

geez Molly I never noticed that you do too. And thank you that is very sweet and generous of you.

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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:34 PM CST : Little Bambi

They actually live at Urraween

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Twodawgz melbourne, Victoria Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:38 PM CST : Little Bambi

sxc666: Little Bambi.

Bambi is my daughter Amber. I call her Bambi though.

Her father rang earlier today to say she had run away from home, she lives with him in Hervey Bay.

He couldnt contact her, because the naughty girl turnt her phone off........But me being the CSI agent that I am tracked her down. She is sooo upset, sobbing, had enough of her father.............long story but she feels isolated between her dads new wife and him, this has been going on a while.

She has only just turnt 16 on the 1st December. Anyway her Dad doesn't want her back

I have spoken to her on the phone and she is adamant she is going to live by herself. I have told her to come here and she doesn't want to leave her friends. I told her that is the last thing she should be thinking of at the moment.

The worst thing is her Dad told me he found a bong in her school bag, that shocked me a bit I have to tell you....................It's funny with parenting even though Kimberley is older she is nothing like Amber, Amber is rebellious and can be a bitch (gets it from her dad ) we face things for the first time, like at the moment I know all the common 'what you should do' But I am terrified of being to heavy with her and pushing her away more.

I feel this has something to do with being in the wrong crowd. I feel she can be pulled back, but I feel if left alone she is going to go down a very bad road.

So this afternoon I am left with talking to her and hoping she agrees to come here for a while, if not I will need to fly to see her to see if I can talk some sense into her.

She is angry, I hate that. I want to reach where the anger is coming from. She has such a beautiful heart and is gorgeous looking it worries me sick.

Thanks for letting me rant

Which ever actions you choose T my thought are with you..

Good luck.

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Ralf74 Bacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:43 PM CST : Little Bambi

boy, we all need a good rant from time to time and you sound like you really need it.

I am not sure where you should go with this or how you should handle it but it sounds like the best place for her is with you. Maybe the change of friends will do her good as she is at a very impressionable age. I think most teenagers rebel at differing levels and hold a lot of animosity as it is part of the growing process in learning the appropriate ways of dealing with things and establishing who in fact they are becoming as adults.

Good luck

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crazzzymolly hervey bay, Queensland Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:44 PM CST : Little Bambi

urraween mm i willcheck out if that's one of the local areas, i live in torquay

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oztrack Perth, Western Australia Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:46 PM CST : Little Bambi

Hang in there, you're doing the right thing....just keep showing her you care. Its difficult when the problem does not lie with you, but you have to deal with it. She's at a difficult age too, young enough to make mistakes, but old enough to make decisions for herself. Dont worry about the bong....could be worse, we all did those things at her age (well my 2 daughters did!)

Good luck and keep us informed....we care and its a good way to get your feelings out, you need it.

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CuspofMagic Stelle, Ribe Denmark

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:51 PM CST : Little Bambi

Firstly Big Hug

As long as you know where she is (Safe a can be under the circumstances) and you keep the lines of communication open ( goes for FOC also) without (as you are aware) giving her an excuse to completley rebel and push those that care for her most away. (replacements tend to have their own agenda)

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crazzzymolly hervey bay, Queensland Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:52 PM CST : Little Bambi

crazzzymolly: urraween mm i willcheck out if that's one of the local areas, i live in torquay

yep its local near the tafe college probably a 20 minute drive from my place maybe less

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crazzzymolly hervey bay, Queensland Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 10:56 PM CST : Little Bambi

your welcome to come stay with me if you want to talk to her, just have to put up with me lol

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friendsfirst Burbank, Illinois USA

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 11:17 PM CST : Little Bambi

TINA.

Big huge hug sweetie.

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Martia benalla, Victoria Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 11:27 PM CST : Little Bambi

Hi oh my gosh I know where you are at and its damned if you do and damned if you don't.All I can say is just let her know you are there for her that you understand the hell she is going through.

The main thing she is talking to you and somehow you must keep it that way no matter what.Now is the time to let her know how much you love her and miss her.It might help to tell her how lonely you are without her and it depends what type of person she is.If you can get her thinking about you over herself it might work and make her feel very needed, which in her mind she was not with her father.

This is a cry for help' 16 is an awful age they are learning so much about life but are not equipped or mature enough to deal with it.No matter what she says to you do not lose your cool as she will be looking to hit out at someone and you are the obvious choice her mother.

In her mind if she upsets you she can go to her friends with a good excuse.Try with all your heart not to give her that out.Because no matter what she says to you she knows that you are there for her.One thing she will not get from her mates is the true caring and love that you have for her.

Expect anything at least if you let her hit out you will know what sort of things are going on in her mind and it will give you insight on how to proceed.My heart feels for you.

Molly you are a gem.

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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

[top] Mon Dec 1, 2008 11:37 PM CST : Little Bambi

Thank you all, you have all stated very much how I am feeling. I'm sure there will be a positive result, its the anxiety in the meantime. I have just spoken with her and she seems to have settled I said I will call her again soon

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Jimi123499 Central, Victoria Australia

[top] Tue Dec 2, 2008 9:04 AM CST : Little Bambi

Tina, try to get her to be with you, talk to her, you will know what to say, just be honest with her. She will listen to you, if you talk to her.

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fathead001 sydney, New South Wales Australia

[top] Tue Dec 2, 2008 9:50 AM CST : Little Bambi

i used to smoke bongs at sixteen,and i know it can lead to other drugs,thats your main concern,and causes low self esteem and other problems like lazyness,i would advise you to meet all her "friends",because it only takes one of her "friends"to be on ICE and then they all are, dont want to freak you out,but keep a close eye on your daughter, and try to come up wit sum kind of agreement, its the rebellious years,lol,support her,good luck sxc666......

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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

[top] Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:48 PM CST : Little Bambi

Jimi123499: Tina, try to get her to be with you, talk to her, you will know what to say, just be honest with her. She will listen to you, if you talk to her.

Yes she is opening up slowly, I received some good advice from someone to walk along side her not direct her and thats what I have been doing

After speaking with her for a while last night, there is no doubt in my mind she needs to come here.

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sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

[top] Tue Dec 2, 2008 1:49 PM CST : Little Bambi

fathead001: i used to smoke bongs at sixteen,and i know it can lead to other drugs,thats your main concern,and causes low self esteem and other problems like lazyness,i would advise you to meet all her "friends",because it only takes one of her "friends"to be on ICE and then they all are, dont want to freak you out,but keep a close eye on your daughter, and try to come up wit sum kind of agreement, its the rebellious years,lol,support her,good luck sxc666......

Thank you, now ICE theres a scary thought

thank you for your advice and knowledge

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kiiwii NZ, Northland New Zealand

[top] Tue Dec 2, 2008 2:00 PM CST : Little Bambi

sxc666: Little Bambi.

Bambi is my daughter Amber. I call her Bambi though.

Her father rang earlier today to say she had run away from home, she lives with him in Hervey Bay.

He couldnt contact her, because the naughty girl turnt her phone off........But me being the CSI agent that I am tracked her down. She is sooo upset, sobbing, had enough of her father.............long story but she feels isolated between her dads new wife and him, this has been going on a while.

She has only just turnt 16 on the 1st December. Anyway her Dad doesn't want her back

I have spoken to her on the phone and she is adamant she is going to live by herself. I have told her to come here and she doesn't want to leave her friends. I told her that is the last thing she should be thinking of at the moment.

The worst thing is her Dad told me he found a bong in her school bag, that shocked me a bit I have to tell you....................It's funny with parenting even though Kimberley is older she is nothing like Amber, Amber is rebellious and can be a bitch (gets it from her dad ) we face things for the first time, like at the moment I know all the common 'what you should do' But I am terrified of being to heavy with her and pushing her away more.

I feel this has something to do with being in the wrong crowd. I feel she can be pulled back, but I feel if left alone she is going to go down a very bad road.

So this afternoon I am left with talking to her and hoping she agrees to come here for a while, if not I will need to fly to see her to see if I can talk some sense into her.

She is angry, I hate that. I want to reach where the anger is coming from. She has such a beautiful heart and is gorgeous looking it worries me sick.

Thanks for letting me rant

AAWWWW ... big

i have to agree with everyone else .. keep on LOVING, SUPPORTING but most importantly keep the COMMUNICATION going.

Good Luck sxc

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aberfoyle Coffs Harbour, New South Wales Australia

[top] Tue Dec 2, 2008 3:24 PM CST : Little Bambi

If she is experimenting with drugs and not happy living with her dad, try to get her to live with you. Sorry Tina, got no suggestions on how to do that, but you know your daughter better than I do, and would know how to 'reach' her.

Keep being the understanding and communicative parent, but do your best to get her out of that environment.

Please to hear though that your last call to her was more positive.

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