This seems to be happening alot

Australia/New Zealand Forums » CS Lounge » This seems to be happening alot
THREAD AUTHOR
Artythis Inverell, New South Wales Australia
Here's the thing.........i try to be as polite a person as can be when i find some one of interest, i send them a nice message and ask if they would like to get in contact and just talk and the like but the thing that gets me is that almost all of the people i have sent a message have never even responded to my messages, either they have deleted them never reading them or look at them and and veiw my profile and don't bother responding, another thing all of these people happen to be the ones who arn't in the forums and arn't really sincear about finding someone that their profile says their looking for, how can they know if they don't contact right?......anyways i think their to judgemental and in a way a bit shallow.

I could quite easily put down a long list of people who have done this but i woun't out of respect, im sure there are others who his has happend to all to offten and if so id like to hear about it and listen to you thoughts on this.very mad handshake
sxc666 Central Coast, New South Wales Australia
Hello Arty.wave

I have no advice sorry. Apart from the normal.hug



Da_Boo_Wabbit Brisbane, Wavell Heights, Queensland Australia
i agree with you matey, there are the ones that say their all this in that but then when they find a match or thir match finds them, if they arnt satisfied theyl start making excuses and saying no i was really looking for the complete opposite....

all i can suggest is keep ya head up and keep doing what makes you happy, you can really win with love or even friendship for that matter.

also as to sending messages, in my opinion i believe their will be a lot of profiles that have been created and just left. maybe one should make a poll for the CS peoples to make thing where if you dont log in, in a certain timeframe your profile wil get deleted
Darktranquillity Brunswick, Victoria Australia
I get that a bit too, I just assume that I am not their type and move along. I never know what to say in messages to new people, but I always make an effort to reply.....even if it is just a "how is your day going??" :)



sassykimmie melbourne, Victoria Australia
Darktranquillity: I get that a bit too, I just assume that I am not their type and move along. I never know what to say in messages to new people, but I always make an effort to reply.....even if it is just a "how is your day going??" :)


I agree . It is awlfully rude to ignore people. As I wrote soemwhere else, a negative response is better than ignoring.

You will always get a response from me, Artythis and Darktranquility.hug
Rodles Brisbane, Queensland Australia
You have a lovely smile Sass hey fellas. I'm new so i appologies if you are sick of people on her commenting on that



sassykimmie melbourne, Victoria Australia
Rodles: You have a lovely smile Sass hey fellas. I'm new so i appologies if you are sick of people on her commenting on that



Thank you Rodles. Not at all. I may be making that trip to Queensland sooner than I expect. LOL
Rodles Brisbane, Queensland Australia
I grow lavenda at my front steps, you good teach me how to salsa dance and i miss having a pussy to stroke ..... LOL



sassykimmie melbourne, Victoria Australia
Rodles: I grow lavenda at my front steps, you good teach me how to salsa dance and i miss having a pussy to stroke ..... LOL


Guys and Gals you have to read my post in passions to appreciate Rhodes' joke laugh


will cut and paste for ur benefits below....



sassykimmie melbourne, Victoria Australia
Rodles: I grow lavenda at my front steps, you good teach me how to salsa dance and i miss having a pussy to stroke ..... LOL



My passions ( by Sassykimmie)

Living life to the max, with or without men. Prefer with a man, but won't be stopped if without. Experience something new each day, say a kind word, smile to a stranger, stop to smell the lavender, dance Salsa, stroke the pussy....

I want to fall in love with a man, experience the fire within, travel together, wake in his arms, listen to his heart beat, pamper him rotten. Just have to wait for right man to come along.........love
maybesoon brisbane, Queensland Australia
Artythis: Here's the thing.........i try to be as polite a person as can be when i find some one of interest, i send them a nice message and ask if they would like to get in contact and just talk and the like but the thing that gets me is that almost all of the people i have sent a message have never even responded to my messages, either they have deleted them never reading them or look at them and and veiw my profile and don't bother responding, another thing all of these people happen to be the ones who arn't in the forums and arn't really sincear about finding someone that their profile says their looking for, how can they know if they don't contact right?......anyways i think their to judgemental and in a way a bit shallow.

I could quite easily put down a long list of people who have done this but i woun't out of respect, im sure there are others who his has happend to all to offten and if so id like to hear about it and listen to you thoughts on this.



dont stress mate!!! i get it all the time, and at the start, i just moved on!!!! put it down to bad manners, then after a while i would wait until a week, still nothing, but i always get a reply back from them when you decide to say, " how rude and disrespectful are you" then you sure to get a reponse!!! works every time, noone can find the time to reply to say something like, "not interested" simple, but it shows manners, but boy they find the time, when you remind them, how rude, "not replying is" applause confused angel
pony51 melbourne, Victoria Australia
agrees with that wirte to them again tell them they are rude you will soon get a reponse.......... strange things happen on here all the tiem like someone that blocks you keeps loking at your profile whats up with that
cowgirldancer The Patch, Victoria Australia
i try and and write a small thankyou for taking the time to read my profile messsage if i am not intressed i wish them well in there search
its not that hard ppl are just rude !!!!scold
relaxin somewhere, Queensland Australia
can completely understand where your coming from.

its actually disappointing if they dont at least acknowledge that you said hi. it can be hard to say that you dont appear to be what they are looking for. but at least it lets you know where you stand.

accepting that we are all judgemental is a way but the shallowness really gets me.

i appreciate ppl honesty and like being told, thanks but no thanks. Ignorance is a major character floor in my eyes that includes whether they are male of female.

they arent worthy of my time is all i think.

blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia
If you are interested in someone then READ their profile. If your looking for a long term relationship and they are not then why expect a reply? confused

Might be rude not to reply but its also annoying when people don't read profiles before sending emails.



psuedonym adelaide, South Australia Australia
blondeaozichick: If you are interested in someone then READ their profile. If your looking for a long term relationship and they are not then why expect a reply?

Might be rude not to reply but its also annoying when people don't read profiles before sending emails.



i wasn't aware of it being against the rules to meet new "friends" whilst in the hope of finding a "long term relationship"
if i've sent messages to someone who is looking for friends, and wasted their time coz i'm looking ultimately for a long term thing, i apologise
conversing
blondeaozichick Melbourne, Victoria Australia
psuedonym: i wasn't aware of it being against the rules to meet new "friends" whilst in the hope of finding a "long term relationship"
if i've sent messages to someone who is looking for friends, and wasted their time coz i'm looking ultimately for a long term thing, i apologise


no offense intended..handshake was more referring to emails that say .. 'hi.. your [insert whatever word you like in here] and I would love to get to know you better.. I am looking for the love of my life.. my soul mate who I can cherish shamrock shamrock shamrock .. I'm hoping thats you'
barfing

my reaction...um..confused if you read my profile you can pretty much guarantee that is 99.9999999999% unlikely to be the case

if they looking to just chat and looking for friends then maybe they should say that yeah? dunno

psuedonym adelaide, South Australia Australia
blondeaozichick: no offense intended.. was more referring to emails that say .. 'hi.. your [insert whatever word you like in here] and I would love to get to know you better.. I am looking for the love of my life.. my soul mate who I can cherish .. I'm hoping thats you'


my reaction...um.. if you read my profile you can pretty much guarantee that is 99.9999999999% unlikely to be the case

if they looking to just chat and looking for friends then maybe they should say that yeah?


for the record no offense was taken. this is a forum and ALL opinions should be respected.
i reckon i'd be your worst nightmare then because i believe that if a relationship has any hope of surviving long term, it should be born from friendship.

***note to self..... dont ask blondeaozichick to be friends lol***

so on that basis if i wanted to start communicating with you outside this forum, how the hell would i do it? (ignoring the fact that i now have a picture up that proves the sceptics from another thread wrong , i AM the elephant man's ugly little brother)wink laugh rolling on the floor laughing
Artythis Inverell, New South Wales Australia
blondeaozichick: If you are interested in someone then READ their profile. If your looking for a long term relationship and they are not then why expect a reply?

Might be rude not to reply but its also annoying when people don't read profiles before sending emails.


Hmm, i do agree with you to a certaint extent though sending an email just to see if the person in question would like to just be friends is how things start of and even open up possabilities of an intimate relationship. I for one don't send any emails to anyone unless i read their profiles fisrt, see if theres an math in likes/ personalaties/ areas of studies etc second, then and only then do i even consider sending an email, just saying the usuall 'hi, how are you?' lines and whatnot.

I do agree that some emails can be rather anoying like the one i got the other day, someone from this site contacted me and asked for "no strings attached sex"...i wasn't interested and refused, i woun't say who it was even though i dislike people like that....i still have enough respect for them not to.

bourbon Sunshine Coast, Queensland Australia
Artythis: someone from this site contacted me and asked for "no strings attached sex"...i wasn't interested and refused


I think you've got some kind of hormonal imbalance happening. There's something seriously wrong with a guy knocking back sex. dunno rolling eyes




Report this thread if it breaks rules, is offensive, or contains fighting. Staff may not be aware of the forum abuse, and cannot do anything about it unless you tell us about it. If this thread is offensive, please click here to report it »



If site dates and times do not show correctly, you can fix this by editing your timezone
Click here to edit your timezone »